Increase Connection with “I Love You Rituals”

Increase Connection with “I Love You Rituals”

My favorite “I love you ritual” is children running into the arms of parents who are returning home. It is so much fun to receive a child overflowing with love and enthusiasm for a parent’s return and to bask in lots of hugs and kisses. There are so many great “I love you rituals” to experiment with in families. Here’s a video where I share some more ideas of rituals that we have enjoyed as a family. One of Thayne’s current faves is our chess “I love you ritual.” I am a gracious loser and always follow up my loss with hugs and “I love you.”

I love-love-love this video introduction to “I love you rituals” and HIGHLY recommend that you watch it all the way to the end to get a full life cycle feel for the power of these rituals. So good!

Here are some practical ideas for little ones from the Kindermusik.com Minds on Music blog:

Best of all, these “I Love You Rituals” work beautifully not just in the classroom but also at home.  Here are a few of our favorites from Dr. Becky Bailey…

“Twinkle Twinkle”

Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star,
What a wonderful child you are,
With bright eyes and nice, round cheeks,
A talented person from head to feet.
Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star,
What a wonderful child you are!

See a video of Dr. Bailey’s version of “Twinkle Twinkle” here.

For children to greet one another: “Georgie Porgie”

George Porgie, pudding and pie,
Gave his friend a big high five!
With his friend he loved to play,
A gift of a smile he gave each day.

Watch Dr. Bailey teach this delightful ritual here.

To encourage cooperation and empathy: “Three Nice Mice”

Three nice mice.
Three nice mice.
See how they care.
See how they care.
They hold both hands
and give a shake.
Smiling together, good friends
they make.
Then turning around,
for goodness’ sake.
Three nice mice.
Three nice mice.

Learn the actions for this ritual here.

“Jack Be Noodle”

Jack be noodle, (arms wiggly)
Jack be stiff, (arms stiff)
Jack come over (run to Mom/Dad/Grandma) and hug me quick. (big hug!)

To end the day with a special moment for parent-child connection: “A Wonderful Woman”

A wonderful woman lived in a shoe.
She had so many children
She knew exactly what to do.
She held them,
She rocked them,
And tucked them in bed.
“I love you, I love you,”
Is what she said.

Watch a sweet video of this ritual here.

Learn more in Dr. Bailey’s book, “I Love You Rituals,” which we highly recommend be on every parent and educator’s shelf, or go online at www.ConsciousDiscipline.com.

All songs and chants referenced are from Dr. Becky Bailey. Thank you, Dr. Bailey, for making a difference in so many classrooms and in so many hearts!


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